Day 9: Beautiful People

Today we’ll be considering relationships and the people in our lives who add meaning, comfort, encouragement and fun. Below are some areas for consideration, as identified by Robert Waldinger, Director of the Harvard study.

“Safety and security: Who would you call if you woke up scared in the middle of the night? Who would you turn to in a moment of crisis?

Learning and growth: Who encourages you to try new things, to take chances, to pursue your life’s goals?

Emotional closeness and confiding: Who knows everything (or most things) about you? Who can you call on when you’re feeling low and be honest with about how you’re feeling?

Identity affirmation and shared experience: Is there someone in your life who has shared many experiences with you and who helps strengthen your sense of who you are?

Romantic intimacy: Do you feel satisfied with the amount of romantic intimacy in your life?

Help (both informational and practical): Who do you turn to if you need some expertise or help solving a practical problem (e.g., planting a tree, fixing your WiFi connection).

Fun and relaxation: Who makes you laugh? Who do you call to see a movie or go on a road trip with who makes you feel connected and at ease?”

Here’s another one:

Mentors and guides: Who gives you support or encouragement to become the best version of yourself?

Now, if you feel like you don’t have many of these people in your life right now, fear not. Throughout this journey, we’ll support you in building connection with yourself and others. Moreover, as we become more grateful and appreciative, chances increase that people will be naturally drawn to us.

For today’s reflection, consider who fills these roles for you or think back on your past. Who has played these roles in your past? Who has had the biggest influence on you?